Wednesday, November 19, 2008


Last week we held the annual relationship night with panel discussion and food. Thanks to the Degooyers, Browns, and Schuermans for giving a great question/answer/advice panel. Below are some of the pictures from the slideshow. I was unable to access all of pictures due to unforseen issues with my computer skills, but enjoy scrolling down and smiling as you see these fun pictures. Also, if you have time be sure to read the advice each couple gave about "how they make their relationship work." I am sure you will find some great ideas and suggestions or just enjoy reading how wonderful our SAA members are.
Above: Woods, Whitakers, Wilde, Petersons, Llyons, Callisters, Browns, Wendlings, Ewells, Wanzek, Overall and Smiths
Below: Guymons, Beans, Schuldbergs,Squires, Crellings, Jiminez, Lofleys, Castles, DeGooyers.
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Kent and I have a goal to go on a date once a week, so even if we can't find a babysitter for a night out, we will still do something fun -- just us. Honestly, sometimes that means folding socks, but when Kent is doing it with me it is something I look forward to. I get to talk to my husband about whatever we want to and that helps me remember why I love him so much.

We have really fun traditions. For example we make pizza every Friday night, hang out and decompress from the week. We also go out on dates and trade babysitting to get away with just each other. Lastly, we have common goals and really support each others' goals no matter how crazy they are. We are each other's finish lines.

How do we make our relationship work? Make sure she is emotionally cared for, and a mutual understanding and respect for the responsibilities that we are faced with.

Trying new things together, lots of laughter and the occasional foot rub!

When I asked Greg how we make our relationship work he said "Cooking". Which is true, we love to cook together and especially create new things and experiment. But lately we don't have many opportunities to do that. So I would also say that two other things that make our relationship work are just playing together, and putting the other person first. When we both think of each other before ourselves, we are happier and always feel loved. Then I try to get the house work and other errands done while he does the school thing so that when we do have time together we can play or even just relax together.

Matt and I do as many things together as we can. It is definitely a priority to make time for each other.

To make our relationship work we make sure to keep communicating... we spend time as a family! It isnt easy to find time, so we use meal times as our standard for spending quality time together and try and fit in a couple hours of relax time in at least one day a week! Most importantly we both try to be understanding of each others needs and we always keep each other laughing!!!... Laughter is the best Medicine in our house!!!

"We try to have fun, keep things new, and remember what it was that originally attracted us to one another"

We make the most of the time we have together and enjoy ourselves. We continue to date, have fun and be stupid together.

Something Trenton and I do, well Trenton does for me is he writes me notes in the morning before school so when I wake up I have a sweet note from him and I automatically have a good day thinking about him. Trenton always makes me and the kids his number one priority no matter what he has going on.

You have to make the time to be together! Our favorite things to do together are travel and go out to eat! This helps us to take a break from our stresses and focus on our relationship! All relationships are work, you get what you put into it just like everything else in life!

How do you make your relationship work?
We look for the good in each other. We express our appreciation, gratitude, and love for each other often.

Relationships are hard, but I have learned that if you willingly serve selflessly, without seaking reward, your love for eachother will grow, no matter how hard life gets. Communicate every emotion and leave nothing out. Be best friends and love eachother with everything you have. Never stop working at it.

Having fun together. I think it's important to do things together that you both enjoy. I feel very lucky to have someone that I know I can always have fun with--no matter what where doing. We share a lot of the same interest. Even though he has a busy schedule we always make time for each other and the kids. We are a family first :)

Act like newlyweds. We try to always treat each other the same way we treated each other when we were dating. Love notes, cuddling, listening, flirting. When you can wake up in the morning and think, “How can I make my spouse’s life worth living?” you will find your life is worth living too.

We get interested and excited about what the other one is doing or involved in. We love to be outdoors together and we enjoy doing the same activities so making time to do those activities is important.

Our advice is to plan regular date nights and make time for each other. Also, KCOM provides several activities for couples/families, take advantage of them.

As for making our relationship work . . . It's kinda silly, but everyday we play a little game and see who wins. The first one to say, "I Love You More," that day wins. That way saying I love you is always on our minds.

Communication is a must. If you're not talking, you're not in a relationship.

1. Put each other's needs first.
2. Plan quality time together.
3. Don't sweat the small stuff!

We travel a lot so we can get away to focus on each other, and make memories by experiencing new places together.
I remind my children that their Daddy was my first love and we need dates alone to take care of that love.

We have a good support system
for each other, we talk about things before we act on them and make
all of our decisions together, if we can't decide on something we will
both sleep on it and then see how we feel about it. We have developed
a lot of patience for each other also and that helps a lot when it
comes to school and kids. :)

Christopher and I are SO different but for some reason it doesn't seem that hard to make it work. I guess the one thing that helps our relationship the most, especially during this pretty stressful time in our life, is remembering. Remembering the "thank you", "I love you", "what can I do to help". Remembering what the other is dealing with before making a comment or judgement. Remembering to communicate because we aren't mind readers! Remembering that we're both human and make mistakes. And always remember the things that you love about your partner especially on those hard days!

We make our relationship work by talking to each other alot! We also share each other's responsibilities and work together. We give more than we can to each other.

By not sweating the small stuff and a few of the big things. Also by learning to laugh at/with each other-A LOT.

Mark and Melinda Brown make their relationship work by teamwork and sharing family responsibilities. Another way is just by loving each other no matter the other ones faults.

How do we make it work? Just like everyone else, a complex combination of little things. For example: time alone together on a regular basis, getting out once in a while, playing games, staying in and watching a movie together. Not being selfish, putting the other one first, trying to see things from each other's perspective. You know- blah blah blah- stuff like that.

The Hillams
The Riters
The Hendersons

What makes your relationship work??

The Stringhams.
The Prices

The Fields